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19 October 2014

So 10 years came and went. I'd forgotten my login for this blog and really just hadn't had much time to even think on it. But lately, with a lot of viewing of Netflix shows from the BBC, I'm missing England more than ever. Here's the update:
Got married July 2008. Love him to bits every day, more and more.
Lost my teaching job, Spring 2009. My grandmother died, my sister had a baby and I lost one. It sucked. Suuuuuuuuucked.
Worked nights that summer, started a business with my husband and taught myself web design. We launched our business in December 2009.
Things took off and we were so busy, took a holiday to Ventura with my family in 2010. We buried our sweet Tucker that summer and took in Monkey from the garage. Zion followed a few months later and we became a house with 3 cats.
2011.. we continued to be slammed with work and decided to move from our home office and into commercial space. Vacationed in Big Sur for a week.
2012.. more work. We vacationed again with the family in Ventura. My darling nephew was born and we left the church of my childhood in a painful uproar that has taken the better part of 2 years to recover from.
2013.. the bottom fell out. We lost our biggest client, had financial stresses beyond belief and my darling boy Samson died. I threw out my back badly and I was laid up for nearly a month. It was a year of profound grief, being lost and aimless. Our only joy was the birth of our dear friends' baby girl Solace Elise who keeps us laughing and fills our visits with happiness. I became a CASA volunteer and other than marrying my husband, it's the best thing I ever did.
2014.. recovery. Digging out of the deep hole we were in, and learning how to go back to normal, whatever normal is. We are healthy, happy, and for now, stable. I'm married to my best friend, my partner in crime.

Most of our life is cataloged on our blog that we started for our engagement. We've been a bit busy and neglected it the last few months but the details are out there. This life we lead is crazy, unpredictable and sometimes tumultuous but it's ours.

23 March 2008

Cold and frosty morning there's not a lot to say
About the things caught in my mind
And as the day was dawning my plane flew away
With all the things caught in my mind

I don't wanna be there when you're ...
Coming down
I don't wanna be there when you hit the ground

So dont go away, say what you say
Say that you'll stay
Forever and a day ... In the time of my life
Cos I need more time, yes I need more time
just to make things right

Damn my situation and the games I have to play
With all the things caught in my mind
Damn my education I can't find the words to say
With all the things caught in my mind

Me and you whats going on?
All we seem to know is how to show
The feelings that are wrong

03 March 2008

I saw Moulin Rouge for the first time with Olivia late one night after the boys had gone to bed. I liked the film but I wasn't bowled over like a lot of people were. But now the soundtrack is under my skin. Rob gets mad at me when I play this song over and over again but he's gone off to the grocery store for dinner stuff so I can play it over and over and over again until he comes back and screams, "ENOUGH EWAN McGREGOR ALREADY." Like one can ever get enough Ewan McGregor? Please.

Never knew I could feel like this
Like I've never seen the sky before
Want to vanish inside your kiss
Everyday I love you more and more
Listen to my heart, can you hear it sings
Telling me to give you everything
Seasons may change winter to spring
But I love you until the end of time
Come what may, come what may
I will love you until my dying day

Suddenly the world seems such a perfect place
Suddenly it moves with such a perfect grace
Suddenly my life doesn't seem such a waste
It all revolves around you
And there's no mountain too high no river too wide
Sing out this song and I'll be there by your side
Storm clouds may gather and stars may collide
But I love you until the end of time

Come what may, come what may
I will love you until my dying day
Oh come what may, come what may
I will love you

Suddenly the world seems such a perfect place...
Come what may, come what may
I will love you until my dying day

There's so much that's good right now and it's work to make a relationship work. We have to talk about money all the time because let's face it, that's what most people fight about. We have had exactly one emotionally charged conversation that wasn't even a fight per se, it was about money. Part of it is the difficulty in being married to a freelance writer. Income fluctuates from month to month and even with my steady paycheck, it's hard to make ends meet. We have 3 animals to feed, we each have a bit of credit card debt. Don't get me wrong. I love love LOVE being together. But there are days that it's difficult. Days when I need encouragement. Days when he needs encouragement. Days when we both want to strangle one of the cats or the dog. Days when his parents need a right smack. Days when I want to elope. But it's so worth it. He's worth it. What we have together is right and it's worth the days that are harder than others. We struggle with the idea of having a partner, someone to rely on when things are a burden. But he's there to lighten my load and I wouldn't have it any other way.

04 February 2008

Apologies for being too busy to keep up with 2 blogs. Most of the updates are on the wedding site now. Life is good. Beyond good. Fiance is living here now, wedding plans in full swing. Work is so much better than it was last year. Enjoying life. Finally!

20 November 2007

I've not forgotten my wee little blog over here. I've just been busy with posting on the wedding site and doing stuff to get the house ready for the FIANCE to move in. Eeek! I'm going to have another person living here. He has cats. TWO CATS. One hates me. The other thinks I am the most wonderfulistic person who ever lived. We shall see how well the mean one adapts to life at Chez Legal Alien because he's gonna have to learn to deal. I'm here and I outweigh him. Oh and I have a dog who will chase him.

And now time for the bling..

It's 2 carats and I love it! We picked it out together so it wasn't a surprise, except that I hadn't actually seen it until he proposed.

04 November 2007

The Wedding

Bf.. Fiance.. that guy I'm marrying? He set up another blog for us about the wedding. Go check it out. :) Eeek! I'm getting married!

03 November 2007

The last several days have been a whirlwind, in the best sense of the word. Next weekend I'll be in Florida for the meet and greet of the future in-laws. I'll also be getting my ring. School is going pretty well. Kids are settling into a routine. Pieces are falling into place. I'm happy, down to my toes happy. Run around and jump up and down happy. Stupid grin on my face happy. Why don't people tell you it's this good?

You are there when I'm a mess
Talk me down from every ledge
Give me strength, boy you're the best
You're the only one who's ever passed every test

Ain't no other man, can stand up next to you
Ain't no other man on the planet does what you do.
You're the kinda guy, a girl finds in a blue moon.
You got soul, you got class.
You got style, you're bad ass

Ain't no other man it's true
Ain't no other man but you.

Yes, those are Christina Aguilera lyrics. Sue me. I'm stupidly happy and hopelessly in love. Why not listen to mindless pop music? My 22 year old self would hate the 33 year old me. Isn't that the beauty of not being 22 anymore? I love the 33 year old me. This is how you're supposed to feel in your own skin. My 30s have been amazing. A wild ride. Up. Down. Down again. All over the place.

And now? To the moon.

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